I really thought I was a strong girl who never blamed her past or her childhood for her current circumstances. But who or what was I blaming then? Well, the truth is, I was actually blaming myself. Why? I was blaming myself because that's what I was led to believe. The "leaders" I had surrounded myself with were not leaders, they were simply managers. And that's all they did - manage me. You know, highlight the weaknesses and ignore the strengths. So for years I focused almost all of my attention on strengthening my weaknesses and you can guess how that worked out.